When a romantic relationship turns into an emotionally devastating breakup then the intense level of emotions that is deep-seated subconsciously will start to control your mental and emotional state of well being. Breakup is the reflection of the act of cheating or lying or misunderstanding or abusive behavior or narcissistic behavior or an alcoholic behavior in a dating relationship or committed relationship.
A storm of emotions starts to flow into your life in a destructive way when you experience a devastating breakup with a person you love unconditionally. When you experience a devastating breakup in your relationship life, you start to feel like your life is over, and your perception about manifesting a vibrant relationship seems impossible in that state of your being. You can’t be able to heal your wounded self if you continue your relationship with your ex as friends with benefits or any casual type of relationship. You need some time and space to deal with your emotional storms caused by a devastating breakup.
Never punish yourself and never jump into a new relationship instantly after experiencing a breakup. The majority of people force themselves to jump into a new relationship instantly to bridge their emotional gap, which is not the wise and mature way to deal with the emotional storms. Never look for temporary adjustments of your emotional issues and internal issues rather focus on your healing process being focused. There are 16 action steps below which can help to heal your wounded self, let go of your ex, discover the best version of yourself, and move on with freedom and peace in your life.
1. Detach yourself completely from your ex or things that are related to your ex.
You have to detach yourself completely from your ex in every way possible during the healing process. You need to have some time and space to work on yourself to heal your wounded self, which can help you to let go of your ex faster. You must disconnect yourself from your ex on all social media platforms, delete all the pictures of your ex from your mobile phone or laptop, throw out or hide all the physical gifts your ex gave you, and erase their mobile number permanently without any hesitation.
When you see their stuff every day then it will keep occupying your mind in a negative manner. The flood of negative emotions can destroy your life if you become occupied by the romantic chemistry you had with your ex or physical things given by your ex that exist around you. Once you detach yourself completely from your ex or things that relate to your ex then you can be in a perfect situation to focus on your personal well-being, emotional well being and discover the best version of yourself much faster.
There might be a different case scenario in such situations. Some might have kids together, some might work together or some might be staying together in the same home or some might have legal issues after their breakup. In those case scenarios, you just need to focus on your core priorities and personal well-being instead of engaging in any deep conversation or intimate relationship. If you have kids together, you have to set some healthy boundaries while taking care of your kids together.
You need to be very specific in such situations and never allow your ex to engage you in any kind of deep conversation or flirting behavior or physically intimate behavior. Never engage in a lengthy conversation, making excuses for your kids or professional work or legal court issues or anything else during the healing process. If you work together or live together, just be specific and professional instead of being emotional. You can’t heal your wounded self nor be able to let go of your ex if you create mixed feelings during the healing process.
2. Meditate every day to create positive harmony among your mind, body, and soul.
When you get mentally and emotionally occupied by your ex then it influences your thoughts, emotions, decisions, and actions which forms a pattern in your life. Meditation is an inward spiritual journey that can help to align with your eternal self which is the source of positive energy, healing energy, and infinite wisdom. When you practice meditation on a regular basis then you can be a soul-driven person to gain mastery over the storms of negative emotions, negative thought chattering, and the negative energy with ease.
When you become disciplined on practicing it then you can connect with your spiritual self, which can guide you through your intuition for healing your wounded self much faster. You can harmonize your mind, body, and soul in a positive manner once you practice meditation on a daily basis being in a quiet location. You must practice a simple meditation technique, which is a breathing technique for at least 15 to 20 minutes twice a day (before you sleep, and once you wake up in the morning). For better understanding regarding a meditation technique please go through this article What is the benefit of practicing meditation and how to practice focused meditation?
3. Create a vision board focusing on your healing goals.
The vision board is a physical representation of your dream goals that you desire to experience in your physical reality. The vision board will help you to stay focused on your healing process despite your emotional storms and negative memories caused by your emotionally devastating breakup. This is the most powerful way to program your subconscious mind, which is negatively conditioned due to your emotionally devastating breakup. You must design your vision board in a creative way that reflects your core intentions or desires which are to heal your wounded self and let go of your ex. Actually healing your emotional wound should be your first priority, and once you heal your wounded self then you can be a living magnet to attract a destined version of your life sooner or later.
Snap your smiling picture and stick it on your vision board. Script your healing goals to stick on your vision board. Write down positive, self-empowering, and uplifting statements on a piece of paper to stick on your vision board. The images, positive words and positive statements should be very compelling to program your subconscious mind in a positive manner. Every word and statement should be written in a manifested form in the present tense. A few examples are given below: “I am emotionally healed and I am living a happy and vibrant life.” “I love myself, accept myself, and respect myself for who I am being.” “I let go of my negative past experiences, being grateful.” “I am happy and enjoying my own company.” "I am experiencing a happy and self-fulfilled life."
4. Practice visualization and positive affirmation technique to program your subconscious mind.
Once you create your vision board with positive images and positive statements, it’s time to take action on it. Visualization and positive affirmation techniques are the best techniques for programming your subconscious mind, which is negatively conditioned due to your breakup experience. Whenever you visualize yourself seeing your vision board then feel everything in a manifested form in advance without being judgmental. You must internalize every word, statement, and picture in a manifested form emotionally—then you can heal yourself and discover your self-identity faster. Your subconscious mind is like a miracle-creating powerhouse that must be positively programmed during the healing process. Your vivid visualization and positive affirmations will help you to explore your destined version of life in advance, which can help to reprogram your subconscious mind effectively. Never allow your negative self-limiting beliefs to distract you while practicing these techniques.
The visualization is a miracle creating technique to utilize the power of your imagination to manifest your healing goals into your physical experience. When you see your healing goal with your mind’s eye and visualize yourself being healed completely in a manifested form then you can heal your wounded self much faster as per the law of attraction. You must visualize like you are already living a happy and vibrant life in an advance by seeing your vision board on a regular basis then you can attract this imaginary reality into your physical experience. You must practice the life-altering principle "fake it till you manifest it into your physical experience" then you can manifest your healing goals sooner or later.
You can practice visualization by being alone in a quiet location on a regular basis for at least three to five times a day. You can practice visualization with open eyes and by being in a meditative state too. The more powerful way to visualize your healing goal is through a meditative state which can help to access your soul energy and connect with the Universe intelligence. You can snap your vision board in your cell phone so that you can practice visualization at the workplace during breakfast or lunchtime. You can create an audio version of your vision board by recording your own voice while chanting your healing goals from a vision board to hear while driving with a low volume instead of hearing songs. The best time to practice visualization technique would be when you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep at night.
Positive Affirmation technique:-
Positive affirmations help to convince your subconscious mind regarding your healing goal in a positive manner. Never allow your negative self-limiting beliefs or your negative self to distract you; rather, ignore them while practicing positive affirmations. You can gain mastery over your self-limiting beliefs if you keep practicing positive affirmations with a strong conviction, confidence, and internalize it emotionally on a regular basis being disciplined. It can also help to raise your self-worth, self-confidence and your perception regarding yourself will change in a positive manner. You can use a mirror technique or you can practice by being in a quiet location for at least three to five times a day. The best time for practicing positive affirmations would be before you sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning.
When you keep visualizing and affirming following your vision board then you will start experiencing a huge positive shift in your mental and emotional state of well being slowly and gradually.
5. Love yourself, accept yourself, and appreciate yourself for who you are being.
When you treat yourself with love, respect, and appreciation then you can harmonize your thoughts, emotions, and actions in a positive manner. Your personal well-being does matter while healing the emotional wound caused by your emotionally devastating breakup. Never criticize yourself for your breakup experience rather express your gratitude for every lesson you learned from it. The majority of people are punishing themselves for their emotional issues caused by a breakup which is the core reason to attract more emotional disaster in their life. Your inner child is going through an emotional disaster that needs more love, respect, acceptance, forgiveness, and appreciation during the healing process. Once you treat yourself in a positive manner then you can heal your emotional wounds caused by an emotionally devastating breakup and move on with freedom and peace in life with ease.
6. Focus on your positive growth-based activities on a regular basis.
When you focus on your positive growth-based activities on a regular basis then there will be no room in your mind to get occupied by your negative thoughts or memories related to your ex. When you get occupied by positive growth-based activities then you can heal your wounded self and discover your self-identity faster. You must focus on your dream relevant activities like taking institutional/ academic courses, attending seminars, and enrolling in courses that can alter your quality of life to a higher dimension. You must join a physical fitness club for your health transformation and go for a morning walk on a regular basis which can change your perception regarding yourself. You should go to a place of worship as per your religious beliefs to experience inner peace.
These positive growth-based activities will help to harmonize your thoughts, emotions, and actions in a positive manner. This approach can help to learn, grow, and evolve like a true human being as well.
7. Do what makes you feel happy and enjoy your own company on a regular basis.
Your personal well-being is the first priority for healing your wounded self and letting go of your ex. You must do the things that can make you feel happy and vibrant on a regular basis being disciplined. Never criticize or belittle yourself; rather, treat yourself as the most precious person in your life. You must go on a vacation trip, eat your favorite food, buy new dresses for yourself, listen to the songs that touch your soul and engage you emotionally, and celebrate every moment being in the present moment to its fullest. If you have free time, visit a beach and naturally blessed locations where you can align with your eternal self. You must spend your quality time with your best friends or relatives who can reflect your soul and understand you; it can help you to heal your wounded self much faster.
You must focus on yourself to keep yourself happy despite your emotional issues. Your positive vibes of happiness can demagnetize all the negative energy that is occupying you mentally and emotionally. Whatever be the circumstances or emotional issues in your life, you just need to enjoy your own company, being grateful. When you start to enjoy your own company, being happy, vibrant, and grateful, it can help to let go of your emotional hurt or your ex faster. You are a responsible person in your life who should care about your mental and emotional well-being without being judgmental.
8. Don’t rush into a new relationship instantly without healing your emotional wounds.
When you experience an emotionally devastating breakup then it’s normal to feel lonely, empty or alone, but it doesn’t mean you should jump into a new relationship instantly for bridging your emotional gap. You must focus on healing your wounded self without getting distracted by emotional storms during the healing process. If you engage with someone else privately during the healing process, you will never be able to heal your wounded self nor you will be able to let go of your ex. You will attract a person who can take advantage of you, hurt you, betray you, and disappoint you, even more, when you work on a new relationship without healing yourself first.
Besides this, once you engage with your ex in "friends with benefits" type of relationship then you can't heal your wounded self nor let go of your ex because it will create a huge blockage in your healing process and manifestation process of your ideal partner. Never lose your mind while getting driven by your negative emotions while working on yourself for fixing your emotional issues. The universe intelligence is always monitoring your thought vibes, and you must be aware of this fact during the healing process.
9. Practice forgiveness rather than living with a revenge mindset.
When you practice forgiveness for your breakup experiences being grateful then you can let go of your emotional issues and your ex with ease. You’re entitled to make mistakes and everyone does the same but you must learn valuable lessons from your emotionally devastating breakup experience and use those lessons to improve the quality of your relationship life. Never punish yourself because of your breakup issues and never focus on destroying the life of your ex with a revenge mindset. Once you stalk on your ex on social media platforms or in real life to destroy their life then you won't be able to heal your emotional wound nor you can let go of your ex for the lifetime.
You will get mentally and emotionally occupied by more negative thoughts and negative emotions if you live your life with a revenge mindset instead of forgiving yourself and to your ex. You have to go through an intense level of emotional disaster in your life if you cultivate this negative attitude.
10. Feed your mind with positive and emotional healing related books.
Whenever you feed your mind with positive, motivational, spiritual, and healing-related books on a daily basis, your mind will be occupied by only positive thoughts and positive emotions. When you feed yourself with only positive mental nutrition, it will help to demagnetize all the negative thoughts and negative emotions with ease. Your mind will have no space for the negative thoughts to chatter when you engage in listening to positive growth-based and healing related materials. You can heal your wounded self and discover the best version of yourself faster when you feed your mind with positive mental growth-based materials on a regular basis.
11. Take help from a professional relationship coach for their right insights and guidance during the healing process.
It will be your wise and mature decision to take help from a professional relationship coach to fix your emotional issues and internal issues caused by an emotionally devastating breakup. Once you share your emotional issues and internal issues with a relationship coach being honest then you will get their life-altering insights and guidance to master over such issues which can help to let go of your ex with ease. When you refer a relationship coach then you can be able to know thoroughly regarding the category of your emotional wound because you might seek help from a therapist if you were in a narcissistic type of relationship. Never wait for a miracle to happen if you are going through an emotional disaster rather work on your healing process being with a relevant relationship coach or else you have to go through an intense level of emotional disaster sooner or later if you take your existing situation casually.
12. Detach yourself from all the negative toxic people and associate with only like-minded positive people.
You can't be able to heal the emotional wound caused by your breakup experience if you are surrounded by negative toxic people in your life. You have to detach yourself from all the negative toxic people whoever is poisoning your life whether they are your family members, friends, or relatives. You are going through an emotional disaster and you have to be very sensitive about the current state of your mental and emotional well being. The majority of the people love to interact with their friends who are going through similar breakup or divorce which is creating a huge blockage in their healing process as well. Whatever you rehearse repeatedly and vividly on a daily basis becomes the reality of your life as per the law of attraction.
You must associate with the people having a clear dream purpose and positive attitude then you can learn, grow, and shine by their emotional support, encouragement, and positive guidance. When you associate with positive and generous people then they will feed you with love and help to acquaint you with your hidden greatness which can help to become the best version of yourself as well. You are the responsible person to design your external environment then you can fix your internal issues with ease.
13. Make a gratitude list every day to be more magnetic.
When you feel grateful for who you are, for what you have and for what you do, you can become more magnetic and attract more of what you are grateful for as per the law of attraction. You need to express your gratitude every day before you sleep by making gratitude lists. You just need to express your gratitude regarding everything you experience throughout the day, which can help to raise your positive vibes to a higher frequency. In fact, a grateful attitude can connect you with the universe intelligence and lead to a huge positive transformation in your life. The attitude of gratitude has a higher level of healing energy to heal your wounded self as well. You must feel every word and statement emotionally while making gratitude lists, which can help to channel yourself with the universe intelligence.
14. Spend your quality time being alone with Nature on a regular basis.
When you spend your quality time being alone with Nature on a regular basis then you can heal your emotional wounds and let go of your ex with ease. In fact, nature itself is the greatest source of healing energy and positive energy which are the core essence for healing your emotional wound and discovering the best version of yourself. You just need to visit any peaceful location where you can observe nature as it is and visualize your healing goals without focusing on the objects or people around you. This is the best technique to connect with the Universe intelligence and cleanse your negative energy completely.
15. Do some random acts of kindness to fill yourself with love and compassion.
When you share what you have with others, you can attract more of it abundantly as per the law of attraction. You can attract more positive energy once you spread the light of love and compassion in others’ lives without any expectation of getting something in return from them. You can help charities or people who are in desperate need of food or money or love and compassion. This kind of activity can give you inner peace, and you can attract more positive energy, which can help to heal your emotional wounds much faster. When you practice this technique being honest and trust the manifesting process by believing in yourself then you can master over your emotional issues with ease. Once you heal your wounded self, you can be so magnetic to radiate positive vibes which can help to let go of your ex and move on in life being your authentic self.
16. Focus on the advantages of letting go of your ex and moving on.
When you live with your emotional issues caused by your breakup then it can damage all areas of your life and you can't be in a situation to manifest your destined version of ideal partner or soulmate for the lifetime. When you get occupied by your ex then it can create a huge blockage in your healing process and manifestation process of your ideal partner as well. At the same time once you focus on letting go of your ex and moving on with your right level of awareness then you can be so magnetic to manifest a destined version of your life as a whole. You can experience a purposeful and self-fulfilled life once you are able to let go of your emotional issues. Besides this, you can be in a perfect situation to work on your new relationship too and move on with peace and freedom after letting go of your ex from your life.
Note:- Emotional healing and letting go of your ex after an emotionally devastating breakup is not an overnight process rather it will take some time to heal your wounded self, let go of your ex, discover the best version of yourself and move on with freedom and peace. so you have to practice these steps being committed and disciplined until you get healed completely.
Once you heal your wounded self and discover the best version of yourself then you can work on your new relationship. This article can help you for manifesting your ideal partner:-
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