A breakup is simply a reflection of the act of cheating or lying or misunderstanding or an abusive act in a committed relationship. Whenever you experience a breakup in your relationship life then you just need to understand that your romantic relationship is completely over for that particular time period. Actually, a breakup is a situation where both partners are unable to love or like or respect or accept each other for that particular time period.
You can't get back your Ex by pleading, crying or begging after experiencing an emotionally devastating breakup. You should be professional instead of being emotional after experiencing a breakup. You might start to feel lonely, empty, stuck and confused after experiencing a devastating breakup which is normal. You need to have some time and space to heal your wounded self and get back your self-identity rather than running after your Ex being desperate. If you continue your relationship with your Ex as "friends with benefits" after an emotionally devastating breakup then you can't be able to heal your wounded self nor you can manifest your ideal partner into your physical experience.
When you remain friends with your ex after a devastating breakup then you will have mixed feelings which can keep you in the state of confusion or brain fog and you can't be in a situation to make a consciously wise decision. Never get driven by the storms of your emotions because the negative emotions can invite more emotional disasters in your life. You need to be consciously aware of fixing your emotional storms wisely instead of comforting yourself temporarily by being in "friends with benefits" type of a casual relationship with your Ex.
The case scenario might be different where you have to encounter your ex most of the time but there are always certain ways to fix such issues. Suppose, if you have kids together then you can co-parent your kids together with certain limitations or by having some healthy boundaries instead of being intimate casually. if you have to meet with your Ex because of your kids then you must lower the number of encounterments or meetings with your Ex. It doesn't matter whether you work together or stay in the same apartment, you just need to have some healthy boundaries and you must focus on your healing process by detaching yourself completely from your Ex in every way possible.
Most of the people continue their relationship as "friends with benefits" for bridging an emotional gap, financial insecurities, fear of what people gonna say or fear of being single which is far more destructive than they can even imagine. You can't continue a relationship with your ex and expect to get healed at the same time. When you look for the temporary adjustment of your emotional gap by being in casual friends with benefits type of relationship with your Ex then you are signing up an intense level of emotional disaster in your life. You will be experiencing more complex consequences or emotional storms once you apply a casual approach to master over your emotional storms.
When your Ex approach you for "friends with benefits" kind of relationship then you have to understand the fact that a casual relationship can comfort you for a certain time period but not for a lifetime. Your Ex might pretend to love you for their self-centered motive that is to have a quality time with you for a physical pleasure. It will be your mature and wise decision to focus on healing your emotional wound by detaching yourself from your Ex completely after experiencing a breakup. Your casual relationship will work till the benefits are available and once the benefits stop then the casual relationship will be over too without any prior notice from your Ex.
You can't change the chemistry of your relationship from romantic to friendship after experiencing a breakup rather you both will end into bed again which will keep your breakup experience alive for a longer period of time. When you have a sexual relationship with your ex after a breakup then it will be a more difficult situation for you to rescue yourself from your ex. Never assume that being intimate physically can fix your breakup issues rather it will complicate your existing issues. The moment after a breakup is an emotionally challenging phase where you have to focus on your core priorities being professional instead of being emotional.
If you keep making yourself available as an option to your Ex then you will be in a worse situation where you can't even trust the words like Love or loyalty or committed relationships anymore. You can't manifest your ideal partner who can reflect your soul if you apply a casual approach to fix your relationship issues. When you force yourself to remain in friends with benefits type of relationship then the romantic moments with your ex can give you a bed pleasure for that particular moment but you have to go through an intense level of emotional disaster sooner or later.
You must detach yourself completely from your ex instantly after experiencing a heartbreaking breakup in every way possible. Disconnecting from your ex completely means disconnecting yourself from your ex on all the social media platforms, deleting all the pictures of your ex from your mobile phone or laptop, throwing out or hiding all the physical gifts your ex gave you and erasing their mobile number instantly. When you see such things every day, it can occupy your mentally and emotionally all the time.
The flood of emotions can destroy your life if you become occupied by your breakup memories or physical things given by your ex that exist around you. If possible distance yourself from their friends whom you know personally if you want to heal yourself with ease. You must prioritize yourself to heal your emotional wound and discover the best version of yourself which can help to make you like a living magnet for gravitating your ideal partner to your vortex. You have to focus on your mental and emotional well being for healing your wounded self faster.
Actually healing your emotional wound is not an overnight process rather it takes some time and you have to be consciously aware of your every move during the healing process. The majority of people are unable to deal with their emotional storms after a breakup and they are engaging together in friends with benefits type of relationship which is creating a huge blockage in their healing process and manifestation of their ideal partner. You must refer a professional relationship counselor to expand your awareness which can help to deal with your emotional storms and you will be able to make a conscious wise decision.
Besides this, you can practice a vision board approach to heal your wounded self faster after experiencing a breakup. So never choose a casual approach to fix your breakup issues and always follow your intuitive intelligence before you get into friends with benefits type of relationship.
Finally, the bottom line is "Casual relationship can give you a bed pleasure for a certain time period but not a lifetime pleasure".